We all know the classic local American Know-It-All: he’s a self-proclaimed expert on Mexico — it’s always a he, isn’t it? He can tell you all about the customs, the holidays, the traditions. He can tell you what most people like and don’t like, think and don’t think. He knows the best spots for tacos and the inner dynamics of the country’s families. His girlfriend’s family, mostly.
And he barely speaks a word of Spanish.
The clueless know-it-all
Now, I’m no one to be criticizing others: I’ve got plenty of my own conceit when it comes to Mexico.
But my goodness, even I know my limits!
I had a friend here in Mexico for a while who was the exact person I described above. And before I get into it all, let me first state this: he was a very nice man.
He was also very, very clueless. But part of the gift of being a man from the United States is a kind of unending confidence that most of us can only dream of. At least he gave most of his explanations and analyses in English, so he probably wasn’t understandable enough to bother too many Mexicans.
I always wonder about these types, who remind me of the Mexicans I’ve met who claim that English is super easy. They understand it perfectly, they insist; they just have a little trouble speaking it.
But anyway, look, buddy. If you don’t speak the language, I’m not following you around the country, okay?
The actual know-it-all
On the other end of the spectrum, we find people who actually do know it all, and like to tell you about it. A lot.
One fellow I know who’s been here for many years consistently speaks to me as if I’m just off the boat. He throws out folkloric phrases, many of them kind of rude. He then translates and explains them, kind of like my meme pieces, only unasked for.
Want a pro tip for all of us know-it-alls out there? Don’t offer your “expertise” unless asked. Definitely don’t assume you’re the most interesting person in the room. And my goodness, don’t explain Mexico to Mexicans.
What do Mexicans say?
Mexicans, for the most part, let this type of person be. As a whole, they tend to not get worked up about things. They let people behave as if they know everything they pretend to know. They might whisper a “qué pendejo” — what an ass — out of earshot later, it’s true. But they seem to be missing that swell of righteous indignation that so naturally comes to Anglos. They don’t let it keep irritating them after the fact.
Besides, Mexicans have their own version of this. It’s usually some variation of “I don’t bother speaking English because I don’t like it.” Related is the phrase “Well, I understand English perfectly, it’s just tiresome to speak.” A relative of my ex-husband gave me an even more preposterous explanation. “I only understand proper, British English,” he said — in Spanish, obviously.
See? We can all be asses, and it’s fine. But that doesn’t mean it’s something we should strive for.
Sarah DeVries is a writer and translator based in Xalapa, Veracruz. She can be reached through her website, sarahedevries.substack.com.
Thank you for the laugh!
Ouch. As an American and now a Permanent Resident, I am working very hard to respectfully learn the tongue and culture, which I adore. At times, I feel the need to apologize for some of the arrogance exhibited by my USA friends. Trust me. There is a particular cult like illness in the states that has become toxic and obnoxious – even to many of us. The majority see us as brothers and sister going into the future. As for me? I like the tshirt slogan seen here in Mazatlan: “I’m now on the happy side of the wall.” Gracias. 😉
Ignorant behavior is not limited to Americans in Mexico. After living in Mexico for three years i have seen many people from other countries behave like imbeciles. It’s also mot limited to just Mexico some people who travel abroad are clueless and unaware of how thier behavior is percieved by locals. It bolis down to manners, and if you didn’t learn them at a young age chances are you never will.
True . . . there are the plethora of Canadians as well.
There are a lot of these Gringo know-it-all especially on Mexican politics. They have no knowledge of Mexico’s history and claim to known it all, especially the conservative types!
Amen!
No seas un sabelotodo.
Good article and very real. I would have changed the title to gringo no it all though.
Love your articles
The American failed in the US moved to Mexico and became a know it all.
I’ve known a few of those, including myself (occasionally…)
Not just Americans, some Canadians can be asses also. And, not specific to men . . .
I could not agree more, and that many other countries experience the same attitude. But, in the opening sentence, you refer only to he. Perhaps this was meant to cover expats in general. I have known, and do know many women who also show this tendency. We all need to check out attitudes occasionally.
Good reminder to keep our ego in check, ha, ha….
A veces confieso que soy culpable de los cargos que se me imputan.
I have the privilege of being married to a Mexican lady who was an English teacher, art historian, simultaneous translator, etc. She never fails to instruct me how not to make a pendejo of myself despite my natural tendencies.
This is “mansplaining” with Mexican nuances layered on-top.